CNN’s ‘Redemption Project’: Could you forgive your loved-one’s killer?

By Rusty Wright

When someone offends you, do you get even?  Ignore?  Seek to reconcile?  Suppose their offense were killing your loved one or maiming them – or you – for life.  Would you meet with the perpetrator and talk it out?

Maybe you can identify with participants chronicled in CNN’s new television series, The Redemption Project with Van Jones.  Debuting April 28, it focuses on “restorative justice,” a novel attempt to repair interpersonal and societal harm that includes encouraging willing parties to meet and seek resolution.

Sound far-fetched?  The series presents compelling true stories.  In the four episodes I saw, the crimes were horrific:  A drug-related murder, a bullet in the back of the head.  A gang-related shotgun blast that killed a daughter.  Two substance-related road crashes causing death and traumatic brain injury.

Dialogue day

Jones meets separately with both parties in advance, hearing their stories, hopes and fears.  On dialogue day, drama peaks.  We see faces up close, anguish, tears, smiles.  We witness forgiveness granted or withheld.  Real life happening.

For instance, Joshua is serving 60 years for murdering Terria’s son, Christopher.  All three used drugs, but Terria founded a ministry to help addicts.  A cross hangs from her car mirror; she sports a T-Shirt reading “Blessed.”  “I’m truly sorry,” the contrite, tattoo-faced Joshua explains.  “I forgave you a long time long ago,” replies Terria.  The two embrace.  She now mentors Joshua.   

An irony (not mentioned in the CNN episode): Christopher went missing the day before Christian Broadcasting Network visited Terria to film her story for television.  In that CBN segment, Terria told how finding faith in Jesus during prison had set her on the road to drug-addiction recovery.  She learned of Christopher’s death the morning after the CBN filming.  Her faith continues to fuel her life and work.

Others in the CNN series struggle with forgiving.  One Wisconsin woman could not yet forgive the drugged driver who took her son’s life:  “I hope to get to forgiveness one day. …God forgives us every day.  He asks us to do it all the time.  If I’m able to get to forgiveness, then I can see anything.”

Loving enemies?  An historical example

Forgiving offenders can be hard, as Corrie ten Boom discovered.  She and her Dutch family hid Jews from the Nazis during World War II.  For this she endured Ravensbruck, a concentration camp. 

In 1947, she told a German audience, “When we confess our sins…God casts them into the deepest ocean, gone forever.”  After her presentation, she recognized a man approaching her, a guard from Ravensbruck, before whom she had had to walk naked.  Excruciating memories flooded back.

The man told of his past cruelty and subsequent faith in God.  Extending his hand, he asked, “Will you forgive me?”

Corrie stood there, anger welling inside, unable to forgive.  Then she remembered Jesus, who prayed of his executioners, “Father, forgive them, for they don’t know what they are doing.”

She silently asked God to help her forgive her captor.  Her anger softened; she warmly forgave him and told him.  She later reflected, “When [God] tells us to love our enemies, He gives, along with the command, the love itself.”

Restorative justice; grace and forgiveness

I’ve never had a loved one murdered or maimed.  But I was robbed at knifepoint in a home invasion.  I picked the assailant out of a lineup; he was convicted and imprisoned.

Later, I wrote him expressing my forgiveness, because Jesus had forgiven me.  My request to meet with him personally seemed to spook his parole officer.  I’ve often wondered what a supervised dialogue might have brought.

Jones observes, “I think we have lost our sense of grace and empathy and the capacity to forgive in our culture, at the highest levels. …This series is my attempt to put some medicine into our very sick system and to uplift people who are doing extraordinarily courageous things every day.”

The model that CNN’s series depicts deserves wide scrutiny.   Premieres April 28  CNN  9pm ET/PT

Rusty Wright is an author and lecturer who has spoken on six continents.  He holds Bachelor of Science (psychology) and Master of Theology degrees from Duke and Oxford universities, respectively.

Copyright © 2019 Rusty Wright

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Editors:  Note pictures below.  

The Redemption Project poster.
Offender and offended meet, along with support friends and facilitator.
Terria (far left) meets Joshua (far right), her son’s killer.
Host Van Jones monitors the encounters from a separate room.